Defying the expectations that society precedes on us

From a young age our lives are mapped out for us, we’re guided through the ins and outs, the rights and wrongs, the dos and don’ts. To a certain extent it’s brilliant, we get mollycoddled by the security of knowing what comes next. The step by step guide to a healthy, happy life.

You go to nursery and then you go school, you go to sixth form or college and then you go to uni, and then all of a sudden they don’t tell you about the fear. You graduate and then you’re left in the lurch, expected to get a job instantly, find a husband as if by magic, get married and buy a house using all the money from your amazing non-existent job, have kids and live happily ever after, right?

You’re expected to have it all figured out, know what career you want for the rest of your life and go and get it. These are the expectations we all feel that society forces upon us, the pressure to have it all under control, the fear of the reality that we are all just a little bit lost and desperately trying to find our way to that end goal, that happy life.

But you know what? Fuck the system, fuck the ideals, fuck the expectations.

Life is what we make it. Don’t ever feel pressured to have everything together, because let’s face it, no-one really does. Everyone is winging it. Don’t settle for a dead end job because it’s comfortable or because it’s easy and you’re desperate for money. Don’t settle for a man/women who treats you like shit because you’re afraid you won’t find someone else, someone better who treats you right. Don’t settle for living in a shithole with horrible roommates because you can’t be bothered to find something better. You’re not always going to be a student, you don’t have to live like one.

So I say to you, you lovely lovely people. defy the conventions, the predetermined expectations and take the risks, do whatever you want, whatever you enjoy, even if it takes a while to get there, don’t give up hope and just keep doing what you love because life is too goddam short to do anything but.